Get in touch!
Everything changes after college. I don’t think people know how much it changes, I know I didn’t.
Friends move to different cities and when the ‘adulting’ starts, it is hard to maintain that connection because you and your friends might be in two different places (physically and metaphorically). My college friends are still very much a constant in my life. I believe the distance has made my friendships stronger because we have to be more intentional about wanting to be in each other’s lives.
Making friends after college is a lot harder than I expected. Something I have become more aware of over the years is how I carry myself in the beginning of a friendship. When you’re making new connections and building these relationships, you can’t come on too strong. I was the girl who wanted everyone to like me and who wanted everyone to be friends with me. I was the girl who double-texted after five minutes of not getting a response. Yes, that was me.
If you know me today, you know I don’t give a fuck who likes me. I know that everyone is not going to like and I’m not going to please everyone.
Here are my 5 Tips to creating lasting friendships post-grad:
1. Don’t Rush Things
Making connections and building friendships is hard post- grad. But, making friends takes time. You can’t rush or even force someone to be friends with you. Trust the process, the people who are meant to be in your life will come at the right time.
2. Be Yourself
There is one thing that I have learned as I have become more rooted in my intersecting identities: Stay true to yourself. If you are true to yourself and are authentic in everything you do, everything else will follow. The individuals you are trying to become friends with will notice if you are putting on a facade.
3. Reconnect with your roots
Did you lose touch with one of your best friends halfway through college? This is the time to reconnect, take a chance and reach out!
4. Be Intentional
Keep in touch with the individuals you are making connections with. It doesn’t have to be every day. When you are having a conversation with them be vulnerable. Take it day by day, make the most of the time you have with them.
5.Don’t Overthink it
Have you been sitting on that text for hours trying to decide if it Is the right thing to say? Send it! The person you’re sending it to won’t think twice about that emoji or how formal your texting is.
I hope these tips help with finding lifelong friendships post-grad!
Hey lovelies! I’m Mary, a 25-year-old writer. I love a sunny day on the beach and jamming out to music. I created Dishability to engage in conversations around my struggle with Depression/Anxiety and Bipolar 2 as well as being a Queer, Disabled Woman.